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Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl

  • When Holly met  Colin three years ago , she believed  they were ideal  together . They had the same  black humor  and also  enjoyed  the very same  films  and television . They  both wanted a family  in the next 5  years .

    They even had the same  favorite childhood story  - The Velveteen Rabbit - a sweet  coincidence he  often  pointed out  when family and friends  asked about their relationship .

    So when he  all of a sudden  left  Holly  one wet  October day, she was  totally  blindsided.

    "I can't  understand  what changed ," she told us  "He once  told me that he'd made  a list  when he was a teenager  of everything  he wanted  in a future wife , and that I was everything he ever dreamed of . Not only that,  just a few weeks ago  he was talking about   vocal  classes  so he could serenade me  at our wedding."

    Unfortunately , Holly's story  is far from unique . According to dating and relationship expert Clayton Max,  it's not unusual at all  for a male  to   leave  a woman  that  appears  a perfect match  for him .

    "What many  women  don't  realize ," Max said  "is it's not about  how 'perfect'  she  is for a guy  'theoretically '. She can  check  all the boxes  on his list, but when it comes to moving the relationship forward, he still may freak out . "

    That's because,  regardless of  taking pride in  how logical  they are , Max says , "Males  do not  choose  a partner  based on  who's the best  rational  choice  for them. Instead , they choose  the individual  who  makes them FEEL certain things."

    What 'things' do men need to feel?

    Max says that  guys  are instinctively  much more  frightened  of commitment  than women , however  their minds    come  pre-wired with a mechanism that overrides  this fear  with the appropriate  woman .

    Max describes this mechanism as  The Infatuation Response , and when it's working , it essentially  shuts down  the part of his brain  that feels uncertain . Suddenly  his feelings  of doubt vanish , he feels a sense of certainty about the woman , and he's willing  to move mountains to be with her.

    When choosing  between a partner  that  makes sense    and  one that 's triggered  his primal  infatuation reaction , he  will always  choose  the one who 's sparked  his infatuation impulse  one hundred percent of the time .

    So what are Max's  recommendations  for someone  that  wants a guy  to commit   deeply to her?

    1. Accept the Facts

    A huge  error that  women make, is wishing men  were different than they are. But a man  can no more control  these  emotions  of panic    than a woman can control her thoughts   .

    In reality , when he feels  misunderstood  for  not being sure , it only  builds on  the anxiety  and guilt  he  has inside , making him more likely to hit the 'eject' button  sooner rather than later .

    By acknowledging  that this is just  the way  males  are wired, and not pressing  him,  it provides    room  to concentrate on  what YOU CAN DO to  make him sure  - activating  his infatuation impulse .

    2. Don't  try  to "convince " him

    Most  women fall into the trap of  trying  to be a man's  'dream woman ' , by displaying  all the 'sweetheart ' qualities , such as  being a good  listener, being loyal, attentive, generous, and seductive .

    They'll list  out all the reasons they're a good  match , or they'll simply  try  to figure out  what qualities he desires  in a partner , so they can display them when he's around.

    Regardless , they're trying  to appeal to  his 'logical  brain ', which in this situation  is not in charge .

    Women will  do this repeatedly , despite the fact that this approach  virtually  never  succeeds , leaving them disappointed , and upset  when the guy  ends up  going with  a woman  that  has virtually  none of the qualities  he claims  he wants .

    3. Concentrate on  triggering  his infatuation instinct

    The only   way of getting him  to commit with his entire  heart, so he's absolutely  sure  a woman  is the one for him, is to activate  his infatuation impulse .

    A guy 's infatuation instinct  is turned on  by   very specific qualities in a woman . Traits  like curiosity , boundaries, and also  uncertainty , which create  a sense  of exhilaration  and an urge  to follow her .

    Although  many  women will  try  to show a man  just how  devoted  they are  to him in  the hope  that this will  make him feel safe    to open  his heart, this usually    contributes EVEN MORE to  the pressure  he feels on his shoulders , because  at this moment , he's more  afraid  of losing his freedom and sense of self  than losing her.

    To find out more  about  how  to activate  his  infatuation impulse , with  exact  scripts that do exactly  that, watch this free video presentation.

    In it, you'll find out about  the 'emotional tripwire', which places  a man  in infatuation mode, without him realizing why.

    Watch it now while it's still available